tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-49178870530068862332024-03-19T03:09:35.318-06:00Driving My DadDreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-53523320567445356762014-12-28T15:04:00.001-07:002014-12-28T15:04:15.229-07:00In the GardenJudy said that Dad talked in his sleep the other night. He commented, very clearly,<br />
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"I'm in a beautiful garden, shackled by chains."<br />
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It seems that what he can't express when he is awake, comes out loud and clear from his subconscious at night. How sad.<br />
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That lady who feeds me put me in the car, without Tucker. At first I was a bit nervous, thinking we might be going to that place that smells terrible and where I get shots. </div>
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I became curious and more curiouser about where we were going.</div>
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Then we went into a small room with doors </div>
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We went around a corner and down a long hall.</div>
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I could smell a cat behind one door.</div>
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She barked at me.</div>
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Then we went into a place where there was</div>
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Me and "Dad" talked a bit.</div>
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We had a fine visit.</div>
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I hope I can go back and visit "Dad" again!</div>
Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-85336684137938810572014-08-08T22:54:00.002-06:002014-08-08T23:00:37.574-06:00Gone With the WindA few days ago I stopped by Dad's place to take Judy to lunch and then for a massage. Instead of meeting Judy outside of the complex, I decided to go to their apartment (since I was early) and have a chance to say, "Hi!" to Dad. He was at the table, in his pajamas, having recently finished breakfast. I gave him a hard time about his wardrobe. He responded with two or three words that made sense, followed by several words of mumbo jumbo. I asked him something else, and got a similar response. Often what he says doesn't always make sense, but the syntax of his speech is always correct. This new speech pattern was totally different. His statements almost always began with three words that were correct, such as, "Say, I need…" followed by several rhyming words and then a string of words beginning with the same consonant. So his complete sentence might be, "Say, I need vegan jeegan delta dingy doggish."<br />
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I asked Judy if this was new. Apparently, he was fine when he got up and through breakfast, and had just recently begun to have the communication issue. As we talked about this, Dad seemed to slip further away from the here and now, and continued his gibberish. Each statement continued to follow the pattern of several words in correct context, some rhyming words and then a string of alliterative words. In hindsight I wish I had recorded his speech. It was really quite fascinating.<br />
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Dad was seated in a dining chair that has wheels, and he kept trying to scoot away. Judy and I were seated on either side of him. If we asked him a question, such as, "Do you want to go sit on the couch?" He'd respond in his new pattern. We had no clue what he was really trying to say. Finally we were able to turn his chair to face the table and he put his head down on the table. He swore a few times. Sometimes when we asked if he was hurting he'd respond in the affirmative. Several times he indicated that his head hurt. However, other times he would say he didn't have any pain. Dad remained slumped over, alternating with having his forehead on the table, or having his head on his hand. Periodically he would lift his head and look out with bleary eyes. It wasn't clear if he really saw anything or even knew if we were there.<br />
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While this was happening Judy and I were watching the swift approach of a sever thunderstorm. The skies darkened. Thunder boomed and the sky lit up. The wind began to whistle and shake the windows. The tree outside the window was being whipped and small branches were flying loose. The rain pelted the windows. Hail began to pound down. Dad became unresponsive. He didn't lift his head. He swore occasionally, but didn't talk to us much. Judy and I shared concerned looks over his head. As the storm worsened, and Dad's conditioned worsened, the rain outside was matched by the tears in our eyes. <br />
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I couldn't help but feel the eeriness of the storm coinciding with the crumpling of my father. I couldn't help but imagine that some transcendental spirit was doing battle with the strong will of my father - perhaps trying to wrest him away from his earthly roots.<br />
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The storm blew past and the sun began to shine on the mountains to the west. The sun made its way to the grounds outside the window and a crew of grounds-keepers who had been chased inside, came out to resume their task of trimming the shrubs and cleaning up the branches and leaves.<br />
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Dad sat up, blinked his eyes a few times, and commented about how the men were raking the leaves and branches. His speech was perfect. He was 'in the moment'. He made perfect sense. He turned to Judy and asked about lunch.<br />
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Dad was back!<br />
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If I were more spiritual, I would argue that the storm was a manifestation of the angels' frustration and anger when they came to take Dad, and he refused to go. His will overpowering them.<br />
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Disregarding the spiritual aspects of this experience, one might come to the conclusion that my father experienced a <a href="http://www.strokeassociation.org/STROKEORG/AboutStroke/TypesofStroke/TIA/TIA-Transient-Ischemic-Attack_UCM_310942_Article.jsp">TIA</a>. It explains the behaviors we saw.<br />
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But having watched Dad slumped over, with his head on the table. Having heard him swear. Having seen the miraculous transformation that came about as the storm passed…<br />
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one has wonder!<br />
<br />Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-1040069578213640342013-12-01T09:14:00.001-07:002013-12-01T09:14:22.234-07:00Fascination with Food<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
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I first noticed this last Christmas. On Christmas Eve our family celebrates with a Swedish smorgasbord. Generally I begin with hors d'oeuvres items, then I add items to the table; first some breads and cold cuts, then meat balls and potato salad, and finally dessert. We each dish up a small plate of food and sit in the living room, and begin the gift exchanges, going back for new foods as they are set out. </div>
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To begin with I had a selection of cheeses, herring and crackers on the table. Dad enjoyed the herring. In fact, we couldn't get him away from that end of the table. He stood there, helping himself to piece after piece of herring and crackers, until he couldn't eat any more. </div>
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When I have been visiting him, he will often ask Judy what they will be having for dinner. When she responds, he will say, "Let's go!" He is ready to eat, even though it may only be 2:00 PM. Many times as I come in and sit down he will ask when we are heading out to the restaurant for dinner. He gets so disappointed when I explain that we won't be going out, that I will be heading home to make dinner for my husband and myself. </div>
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Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-8608634472825613072013-09-07T08:26:00.000-06:002013-09-07T08:27:22.585-06:00Dad's Getting Married in....... well, not tomorrow morning, but he's gonna get hitched in January! Dad's lady friend has lived with him for more than two years. From the beginning of the relationship, Dad has wanted to get married. He often whispered to me, "Don't you think I should ask Judy to marry me?" After the disaster of his previous marriage, I would respond with a resounding, "NO!" I figured Dad would be content with things the way they were. But no, he is an old-fashioned kinda guy and in his mind men don't live with women, they marry them. In all of this, his lady friend has also been a bit reluctant to marry. So, I didn't feel badly about counseling Dad against a union.<br />
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She has relented.<br />
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How wonderful for Dad, at almost 92 years of age, to find someone who cares about him deeply and wants to be by his side!<br />
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<br />Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-78956834832671118122013-08-14T21:53:00.002-06:002013-08-14T21:53:53.726-06:00How Does Your Garden Grow?We took Dad to the Botanic Gardens the other afternoon. He seemed to enjoy the variety of flowers. We did too!<br />
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We used a wheel chair 'just in case'. Dad walked through much of the garden, pushing the wheel chair himself. When he got tired, and when we hit rough ground, or uphill treks, we took over the task of pushing.<br />
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We're looking forward to another trip in the future.Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-16579983231848845152013-04-27T09:11:00.002-06:002013-04-27T09:11:42.908-06:00The Dog Dad Doesn't Have<div style="text-align: center;">
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Meet Clyde. Clyde belongs to a friend of mine.</div>
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He is the biggest Golden I have known.</div>
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He is a bundle of love.</div>
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He knew exactly who's feet he should lie on!</div>
<br />Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-75097178433349446602013-03-09T09:29:00.002-07:002013-03-09T09:29:28.016-07:00Freaky Friday<br />
I received a phone call from Judy, Dad's lady friend, yesterday. She was very worried about Dad. He was on the floor, trying to disentangle an extension cord because he needed to walk the dog. If she tried to divert him from the task he became agitated because the dog needed to be walked and this was the leash. The cord wound around behind a piece of furniture and snaked over other cords. Dad continued his obsessive task continually expressing concern about needing to walk the dog. Dad doesn't have a dog.<br />
In addition, Judy commented, Dad seemed to have a sinus infection, as he was congested and his head hurt. He even held his hands over his ears to try to stop the pain. He wouldn't hold onto the phone to talk to me, wanting to hold his head instead. I talked with him on speaker phone and he commented about the electrical shocks in his head.<br />
We decided he should visit the Doctor in his building. However, he was still in his pajamas. Apparently Dad had trouble getting his clothes on, having some issues with motor control. He also chose to put his clothes over his pajamas. The trip to the doctor brought no relief. She checked his vital signs and they seemed to be alright. She drew some blood, and later, the results proved to be normal. Dad continues to be in pain, he had trouble sleeping last night and has little appetite. He also seems to find it difficult to hold things, whether because he wants to continually hold his head, or whether it is some sort of neurological problem, I don't know.<br />
The most difficult aspect of this is that I am out of town, and it is a weekend. My first reaction was to have Dad taken to the emergency room. Judy was, and remains, dead set against this. She had horrifying experiences with ER's with her first husband, who is now deceased. Later, when I talked with the Doctor, she indicated that an ER is not the best place for a geriatric patient experiencing cognitive problems. How sad. Her preference, if Dad's symptoms remain the same, is to wait until she can set dad up for the necessary tests as an outpatient on Monday. And so, we wait. We worry. We wish that Tylenol would alleviate Dad's discomfort.<br />
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Recently my dad's lady friend was asked what she envisioned as her future when my dad passed on. She surprised me by saying she wanted to get a small apartment, downtown, where she could be near restaurants, museums and other cultural activities. I had figured she would want to stay in the continuing care retirement community. I began thinking that Dad may be a ball and chain, holding her back from her own dreams. So, today I took her out for lunch so we could have a frank conversation without 'you-know-who'!<br />
What a wonderful woman! She felt that Dad was requiring more of her attention at this point in time than he had last year, but, she said she was still fine with the arrangement. She agreed to let me know when she needed more help, whether it was my taking on more responsibility, or arranging for some additional care, or whether it was that Dad needed to consider moving to an assisted living situation. She didn't feel that her life and happiness were compromised by her involvement with my dad.<br />
After the disaster of his brief marriage, to a whiny, self-centered woman, this lady is remarkable! But, you know, I don't think Dad would have appreciated her as much had it not been for living with someone who was so totally opposite!Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-36514549892157042612012-12-20T15:42:00.000-07:002012-12-20T15:42:07.521-07:00Checking It TwiceI don't know about you, but I rarely write checks anymore. Dad is no different. He writes a few checks for Christmas gifts, and he writes checks for his taxes. It takes Dad a while to write a check. He flips back and forth between the check and the check register, loses his place, and finally figures out where to write everything. As long as he has only one check to write, everything goes smoothly. However, he gets confused when he has to write several checks. He forgets who he has written a check to and has trouble getting each check in the correct envelope. Then, when they are in envelopes, he forgets that he has written a particular check, and will try to write another. Luckily almost all of his bills are handled through bill pay. Most are on auto pay, and the rest I take care of for Dad. When he gets a bill, he calls me and I access his account and fill in the necessary information to have the bill handled. <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-28901258592837153882012-11-18T18:18:00.001-07:002012-11-18T18:18:39.467-07:00A Bad Situation Turns Out OK...This TimeDad got a phone call this afternoon. Apparently the "Impeach Obama" group is seeking donations. Since Dad is a devout, died-in the wool, card carrying Republican who has donated to the party and its friends in the past.... he has a target on his back. I wasn't there, but Dad's girl overheard the conversation. The group had Dad's credit card number - I'm not sure how or why, and he agreed to their hitting him up for $175.00. As soon as his girl heard him agree to the donation she read him the riot act. She told Dad that one should never... NEVER... give money over the phone. There is no way to know who is accessing his information, who will actually benefit from the donation and what other uses they might make of the account information. She got on the phone to his credit card institution.<br />
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Then, things get interesting. There was no draft on his account in that amount. Actually, there were no charges on his card for the last 4 days. The agency suggested that Dad's card be cancelled, and a new one issued. His girl explained that he had just gotten this card and we have just changed all of his bills over to the new number. She hated the idea of going through all of that again. The clerk from the bank was able to access information from the old credit card number. He noticed that a charge of $175.00 had been charged on the card today.... and denied! Hooray!<br />
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I talked with Dad about the dangers of phone solicitations. He sounded surprised when I explained that there were all sorts of scams out there to bilk people out of their money. I told him, in the future, to suggest that the organization send him information to read, and only then might he consider a donation. But, I don't believe this will stop Dad from making a donation to a good sales pitch for a cause he believes in.<br />
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I wanted to do something a bit different. I wanted to stay away from writing something about physical pain. Then, I thought about my father. I see my dad suffer when he knows he used to be able to do something, and has lost the capacity to recall how to do it now. The pain must be excruciating!<br />
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Then Dad asked me about an email that was open on his computer. The email was from early August and the information it contained was 'water under the bridge'. Dad kept asking, "Are you sure?" Even though action had been taken on the email in August, he didn't recall that and thought he might need to do something with it now. We sifted through his inbox and I helped him delete junk, move important emails to folders and clear out the inbox. Again, I have access to his email online, so I do try to run interference from home, clearing out things that aren't important, but somehow had missed these few items. </div>
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Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-32275990761884796392012-08-31T21:18:00.004-06:002012-09-02T14:07:37.952-06:00Gotta Have A Job to DoDad is always busy. Whenever I suggest that he go to a meeting at his community, or go with me to see some interesting event in town, he tells me he has too much to do. He says he is too busy. Husband and I sometimes shake our heads in wonderment - just what does Dad have to do?<br />
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Dad takes his 'job' very seriously. He sits at his desk for hours every day. After all, this is what he did when he worked, and work is a defining characteristic of his being. He sifts through papers. And sifts through them again. He opens old emails and clicks on things that show up on his computer screen, opening documents or navigating to sites on the Internet. He pulls files out of the cabinet and reads through papers, many of which were filed over a decade ago.<br />
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When Dad is 'working' he will often call me with a concern, based on what he has found. Today he was questioning a 'discrepancy' he noted in the sale of his condominium. Dad noted that the bottom line of the sales document showed a refund of several thousand dollars. He wanted to know if he had to pay that amount. Dad didn't sell his condo; I asked Dad to tell me the date of the sales contract. He noted that it was written on 2/15/08. I often get the feeling that Dad doesn't recognize the significance of dates any longer. He seems to consider everything as current. I suggested that the document must have been generated when Dad bought the condo, four years ago. After a discussion of why there might have been a refund due, and how that was probably handled, Dad seemed to accept that this transaction was complete.<br />
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I often wish that Dad would turn the computer off and get away from his desk. I wish he would sit down and read, or watch TV, or go for a walk. But, then, I have to think that Dad is happiest when he is working.Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-55300415447130811012012-08-06T18:02:00.000-06:002012-08-06T18:16:47.028-06:00Best Blog - Are You Kidding?!<div style="text-align: center;">
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Sometimes when I post something on either of my blogs I wonder if anyone actually reads what I have written. I am pretty quiet about this blog. I don't post very often - probably not often enough. There are so many good stories about times I have with Dad. Then there are the times I am so frustrated my eyes start to go buggy and I want to rip my hair out. But, I'll save that for another post.<br />
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Imagine my surprise when I received an email from a Tracy Rose at healthline.com, saying by blog was selected by editors as one of their 25 favorite blogs about Alzheimer's disease. My first reaction was to laugh it off as some sort of junk email, or some sort of scam. Then I checked and that web site does exist... and they did pick and list 25 blogs and yes, mine was there, along with some other blogs on the subject that I enjoy reading.<br />
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<i>If you need a quick refresher, pick-me-up, or lifeline, then Driving My Dad is the place for you. Stop by for poems, upbeat reflections on life caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s, or whatever it is you need – you are sure to find it here. Drive on, dear blogger, drive on – your readers are counting on you for a steady supply of Alzheimer’s inspiration!</i></div>
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Today we talked about his lawyer, Frank. We also talked about his new tenant, Don. By the end of the conversation we sounded like a remake of the Abbott and Costello piece, "Who's on First?" It was confusing, for both of us!<br />
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It seemed to take him a week or two to settle back into things at home.<br />
At first he seemed more forgetful than before he left, but that seemed to go away as he became more rested.<br />
Although I've gone out to dinner with Dad and his girl, we didn't talk too much about the cruise. Dad has been more 'in the moment' as far as our conversation goes than recalling his adventures.<br />
He has asked that I help him download pictures from his camera. Maybe that will open up avenues for discussion about his trip.Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-118986383545637492012-04-16T19:25:00.000-06:002012-04-16T19:25:07.278-06:00Look Well, Therefore, To This Day<div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="text-align: left;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;">My dad found a way to instill productivity in his children. From my earliest recollections I can hear my dad saying, "Do something constructive." and, "Finish what you start." To this day, I <strike>sometimes</strike> most often feel guilty if I am not 'doing something'! </span></div></div><div style="text-align: left;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><br />
</span></div></div><div style="text-align: left;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;">Dad's words echo those, a bit less eloquently or perhaps a bit more succinctly, of Kalidasa in his "Salutation to the Dawn".</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><br />
</span></div></div><div style="text-align: left;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;">I was introduced to Kalidasa's words at summer camp. Our camp director would close the morning flag raising on most days, with this powerful recommendation. For many years, the salutation meant little to me, except that it was keeping me from my breakfast. But, as I matured I began to listen to the words. I began to embrace the words. </span></div></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i><br />
</i></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>Look to this day</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>for it is life.</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>The very life of life.</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; min-height: 16px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><i><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"></span></i></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>In its brief course lie all</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>the verities and truths of existence;</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>the joy of growth,</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>the splendor of action,</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>the glory of power.</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; min-height: 16px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><i><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"></span></i></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>For yesterday is but a dream</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>And tomorrow is only a vision.</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>But, today well-lived</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>makes every yesterday </i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>a dream of happiness</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>and every tomorrow a vision of hope.</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; min-height: 16px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><i><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"></span></i></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>Look well, therefore, to this day;</i></span></div></div><div style="font-family: 'Charcoal CY'; font-size: 12px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Charcoal CY'; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><i>Such is the salutation to the new dawn.</i></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; 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</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;">Kalidasa's words define my life. I try to live each day to the maximum extent possible. I lie abed in the morning and plan my day. I outline each moment. Should there be a minute that I have not accounted for, I 'Look well, therefore, to this day' and get involved. I make sure that I am doing something constructive and that I finish <strike>everything</strike> most things I start. Such is the way I was raised!</span></div></div><div style="text-align: left;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; letter-spacing: 0px;"><br />
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</div><div style="text-align: left;"></div></div>Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-22023168075536183922012-04-02T09:42:00.002-06:002012-04-02T09:42:30.344-06:00Failing Memory<div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">I received this in an email and felt, for me, it was just too 'spot on'. I just had to share!</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 14px;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 14px;">Senior citizens are constantly being criticized for every conceivable deficiency of the modern world, real or imaginary. We know we take responsibility for all we have done and do not blame others.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 14px;"><br />
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</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 14px;">HOWEVER, upon reflection, we would like to point out that it wa</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 14px;"><span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline;">s NOT the senior citizens who took:<br />
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The melody out of music,<br />
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The pride out of appearance,<br />
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The courtesy out of driving,<br />
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The romance out of love,<br />
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The commitment out of marriage,<br />
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The responsibility out of parenthood,<br />
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The togetherness out of the family,<br />
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The learning out of education,<br />
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The service out of patriotism,<br />
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The Golden Rule from rulers,<br />
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The nativity scene out of cities,<br />
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The civility out of behavior,<br />
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The refinement out of language,<br />
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The dedication out of employment,<br />
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The prudence out of spending,<br />
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The ambition out of achievement or<br />
God out of government and school.<br />
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And we certainly are NOT the ones who eliminated patience and tolerance from personal relationships and interactions with others!!<br />
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And, we do understand the meaning of patriotism, and remember those who have fought and died for our country.<br />
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Just look at the Seniors with tears in their eyes and pride in their hearts as they stand at attention with their hand over their hearts!<br />
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YES, I'M A SENIOR CITIZEN!<br />
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I'm the life of the party..... Even if it lasts until 8 p.m.<br />
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I'm very good at opening childproof caps..... With a hammer.<br />
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I'm awake many hours before my body allows me to get up.<br />
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I'm smiling all the time because I can't hear a thing you're saying.<br />
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I'm sure everything I can't find is in a safe secure place, somewhere.<br />
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I'm wrinkled, saggy, lumpy, and that's just my left leg.<br />
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I'm beginning to realize that aging is not for wimps.<br />
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Yes, I'm a SENIOR CITIZEN and I think I am having the time of my life!<br />
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Now if I could only remember who sent this to me, I wouldn't send it back to them, but I would send it to many more too!<br />
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Spread the laughter<br />
Share the cheer<br />
Let's be happy<br />
While we're here.</span></span></span></div>Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-45509716984487670702012-03-03T17:04:00.008-07:002012-03-03T18:58:33.765-07:00Empty<div style="text-align: center;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: left;">Saturday Centus is a writing exercise. <a href="http://jennymatlock.blogspot.com/">Jenny Matlock</a> posts a prompt each week and describes limitations the writer must adhere to. This week we were challenged to write 107 words and include: <i>saying goodbye was harder than she thought. </i>Here is my response:</div></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
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<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">When did life change? When did she become everything to Dad? She couldn’t place it on a timeline. She couldn’t recall if it happened suddenly, when Mom died, or whether it sidled up little by little. She went through Dad’s refrigerator, tossing unrecognizable tidbits and packing perishables to take with her. She looked over her shoulder as she stepped into the hall, already feeling a sense of loss. Emptiness. What would she do with her time now? Saying goodbye was harder than she thought. But imagining the adventures Dad would have with his friends on the cruise brought a smile to her face, and her heart lightened. </span></span><br />
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<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">I have been participating in this writing challenge for a few weeks from my <a href="http://livingadream2.blogspot.com/">other blog</a>. But, the prompt fit so well on Dad's blog, that I decided to post it here. To read other responses to the challenge, click on the Saturday Centus button below. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
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Speaking of his community, in getting Dad's mail I came across a letter from the Director of Food Services. He explained that a committee had investigated different coffee options for the community. They selected a different coffee than that which is currently being served for the community to try. It's amazing how quickly news spreads. Look at this paragraph from the director:<br />
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This cracked me up! Not only does word travel fast, but isn't the power of suggestion amazing?!!Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-22397616237678689692012-01-27T10:03:00.001-07:002012-01-27T15:54:10.974-07:00It's Campaign Time - Cough up the Dough<div style="line-height: 20px; text-align: center;"><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Advertising may be described as the science of arresting </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">the human intelligence long enough to get money from it.</span></div></div><div style="line-height: 20px; text-align: right;"><div style="text-align: right;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">- Unknown</span></div></div><div style="line-height: 20px; text-align: right;"><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><br />
</span></div></div><div style="line-height: 20px; text-align: right;"><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">My friend from <a href="http://desertcanyonliving.blogspot.com/2012/01/my-rambling-thoughts-and-rachaels.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+DesertCanyonLiving+%28Desert+Canyon+Living%29">Desert Canyon Living</a> shared this quote and I couldn't help but think about all of the mail my dad has been receiving. Dad is a Republican. He has never wavered. Not once since Dwight D. Eisenhower's days in office. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">It seems that every conservative group looking for money knows that my dad is a Republican and has donated to the party. Each day he has been receiving at least five mailings from different groups. Oh, they are so very cunning! </span><br />
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First, I've noticed that they employ a variety of strategies just to get the recipient to at least open the envelope. Most common, it seems, is a colorful 'stamp' saying "Important Documents Enclosed", or some such statement. Some have highlighted a "Membership Renewal" statement, implying that Dad had already been a part of whatever organization is soliciting his attention. My favorite was an envelope stating "Currency Enclosed" and you could see the edge of a bill in the window of the envelope. (And... just whose money are they using when they send out this stuff?!!)<br />
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</div>Getting the recipient to open the envelope is the first hurdle. Then those clever folks have to get you to read their message. They employ bright colors, highlighting, underlining, and post-it type notes. Some groups have a letter addressed to Dear friend, or Dear supporter. Some have taken the effort to address it to the recipient. Oh, the wonders of technology and databases! Organizations may craft official looking documents with impressive looking seals. Some appeals are single paged, others have multiple pages, use different colored paper, enclose certificates, have different sized documents. But, consistent among all of the mail is that somewhere they ask that you please donate to their cause.... and include four different ranges of contributions, with a simple check off box.<br />
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There are organizations that provide Dad with a self-addressed stamped envelope while other groups require Dad to pay the postage. Many have made it easy to give online, with just a click of computer key. But in the end, they all want the same thing. Money.<br />
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Dad and I don't always see eye-to-eye on which organizations he chooses to support. Dad's lockstep focus on the Republican party and conservative causes has led to more than one lively conversation! I can't change him, he was born this way! But I do worry that as he struggles more with his reasoning abilities he may make unwise decisions or be taken advantage of by a group he thinks is doing great work, when maybe they are only doing a great job of taking money from unsuspecting people. As I was growing up, Dad helped me read things like he is now receiving with a critical eye. He helped me learn to make sound judgments. It was a growth process. I now grapple with how to keep Dad from 'unlearning' these skills. <br />
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</span></div></div>Dreaminghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02113432418609414054noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4917887053006886233.post-72642712905894365752012-01-24T10:04:00.000-07:002012-01-24T10:04:50.860-07:00If It's Tuesday...Did you ever see the movie, "If It's Tuesday, This Must Be Belgium"? If you saw it then there is a good chance you are my age... or better! If not, that's OK. I don't remember all of the specifics, but it was a fun comedy about a whirlwind European tour; one of those where you are on and off the bus and on to a new destination, moving all of the time. <div>Well, I can say "If It's Tuesday, it must be chats on the Farmhouse Porch!" Patrice is back from her trip. Wendell is relegated back to the pasture. And, Patrice is sharing questions asked by her readers. If you'd like to join the chat and see what others have to say, click on the picture to hop to Everyday Rurality and check out the links to others who are joining the chat.</div><div><br />
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</div><div>So this week Patrice shares these questions:</div><div><ol style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic'; line-height: 25px;"><li>Kimberly asks: How long have you blogged?</li>
<li>Lana asks:What is the most difficult part of taking care of chickens?</li>
<li>Susannah asks: Would you prefer to live where it's hot or cold?</li>
<li>Farm Girl asks: What sort of things are you looking forward to in 2012?</li>
<li>Dreaming asks: What's for dinner?</li>
</ol><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;">Here are the responses I would expect from my dad:</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;">1. How long have I blogged? What's a blog? Why would I want to blog? Seems like a waste of time to me. I'm too busy doing other things! My dad just can't figure out social networking - and, if Dad can't figure it out... it must not be worth doing!</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;">2. What's the most difficult part of taking care of chickens? Dad would have to say, 'I have no clue.' He's never had chickens that I know of. If he did happen to care for them, I think he'd feel that cleaning up after them is the most difficult part - and I'm not sure he'd have the patience or the passion to stick with it. Yeah, he'd love the fresh eggs, and he'd share those joyously with friends... but I'm not sure that would sustain the effort to care for them on a day-to-day basis. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;">3. Would you prefer to live where it's hot or cold? This brings a smile to my face! Dad loves living wherever he currently finds himself. And, he will let everyone know that wherever that is, is the best place and everyone should live there! When Dad lived in Arizona, <i>that </i>was the best place. It was warm in the day, cool at night. The climate was dry. The sunsets were surreal. When Dad moved to SC, <i>that</i> was the best: there was always fresh seafood and the winters were fabulous. Rochester, New York was close to skiing and boating. New York City was the mecca of fine food and entertainment. Rhode Island had the best sailing, bar none! Denver, CO has the best climate. So for Dad, it isn't about the climate, it's about the other things that bring joy to his life. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;"><br />
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</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;">4. What sort of things are you looking forward to in 2012, Dad? Ah, with a twinkle in his eye, Dad would say, "being on this side of the grass!" At 90 years of age, Dad is enjoying life. He's in good health, and other than a failing memory, he's having fun. Dad might also say he's looking forward to the election. He is a staunch Republican. He would love to see Obama out of the White House. But, I think he is disappointed in the Republican candidates.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;">5. So, Dad, what's for dinner? Damned if I know, responds Dad! He loves living an the Independent Living Community because he doesn't have to worry about dinner and cooking. He despises cooking. He doesn't do it well. He loves going up to the club-style dining and picking something from the menu. I find it interesting that Dad really enjoys fine food, but adequate food will do as well. The choices at the community aren't always the best - but he never complains. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Century Gothic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 25px;">I'm glad that Dad could take part in the chat with y'all today. </span></span></div><div><br />
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